Video – The Signs

Signs of Manipulative Relationship 

Euphoric beginning – transition- judgments, undermined self-esteem – False Hope.

• You are overly apologetic

• He has increased control over your life/ increased benefits from the relationship

• He had many failed relationship but he’s the victim

• Lies, exaggerates, distorts, omits information

• Influences you to do thing you don’t normally do

• Isolates you from family, friends

• You are second class citizen, your opinion is never good enough

• You walk on eggshells

• He indicates that something is bothering him, you jump to figure out what the problem is.

• He picks his point of responsibility. Problems are never his fault.

• He has grandiose plans that never happen

• His arguments are based on emotion, not reason

• He generalize about people around you.

• He believes “us against them” type of world

• Your friends either love or hate him

• He uses exaggerated flattery like: “Love of my life…”

• He thinks you have to be fixed

Listen to your feelings! Manipulation might cause problem to you if:

• Guilt shame anxiety – motivates you doing something

• Embarrassment – how you are treated

• Confusion – about the quality of your relationship and the motifs of your partner

• Low Self-Esteem – because of the constant critique

• Low confidence – because you take the blame and believe “everything is your fault”.