The Process:
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Goal: gaining control
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Way of control: making you feel guilty, ashamed or worried, while telling or indicating how you suppose to behave to relieve the pressure
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Goal of the control: extensive usage of your resources
In Long Term Relationship:
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Beginning: overjoyed – Promise of gain
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After a transition phase: judgmental, coercive – Threat of loss
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“False Hope”:
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if you do … then your needs will be fulfilled… – They won’t. (How long are you waiting for it?)
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Tactics:
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Charm
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Guilt Trip
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Coercion
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Reason
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Regression
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Authority
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Silent Treatment
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Mis-Interpretation
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Irritability
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Covert Badgering