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Most people are not aware of it
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Feelings: confused, “not good enough” helpless, hopeless, frustrated and angry
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Manipulation: getting you doing what you don’t want to by inducing guilt, shame or anxiety
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Double base communication: surface is pretentiously loving and caring, hidden intention is motivation by guilt, shame or anxiety.
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Reason: take advantage
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Imbalance in the relationship
DO NOT:
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out-manipulate
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try to change him
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look what he says
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ask why
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tell he’s unfair or unkind
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rely on his empathy
[/two_columns_1][two_columns_2] DO:
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know what YOU want
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look what he does
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change your own reaction
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establish boundaries
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learn to be assertive
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learn resistance tactics