Video – Tactics

The Process:

• Goal: gaining control

• Way of control: making you feel guilty, ashamed or worried, while telling or indicating how you suppose to behave to relieve the pressure

• Goal of the control: extensive usage of your resources

In Long Term Relationship:

• Beginning: overjoyed – Promise of gain

• After a transition phase: judgmental, coercive – Threat of loss

• “False Hope”:

  • if you do … then your needs will be fulfilled… – They won’t. (How long are you waiting for it?)

Tactics:

• Charm

• Guilt Trip

• Coercion

• Reason

• Regression

• Authority

• Silent Treatment

• Mis-Interpretation

• Irritability

• Covert Badgering